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By Ladyfire Editor Debora Myers

If you are the adventurous type you've probably already played the naughty paparazzi, but if you happen to be shy and would like to give him the surprise of his life try these hotty techniques to add some sizzle to your love life. If you really want to get him going, work up your nerve and transform yourself into the Amazon he thought he would never have.

Invest in an instant camera and photograph yourself in fishnets, high heels and a saucy red bra.. Take several photos, until you get a shot you like. Then put it in a lightly perfumed envelope with a description of your wanton ways and tell him what you would like to do for him! Slip this package into his lunch box or brief case for a little afternoon lift! Don't be cowardly or embarrassed just because you don't look like a magazine cover. Celebrate your uniqueness! Remember that the majority of men do not obsess about looks or weight. Most of the mainstream media would like you to think that they do so they can keep on selling you those slim-down drinks and expensive "beauty" treatments and the latest "fashion". Most real men don't give a damn if you look like a Barbie doll or not. Lose 'em if they do! The man that loves you will be turned on by the fact that you're taking interest in pleasing him with a fun distraction from the accustomed hum- drum routine.

Make a Video for him with you in the Starring Role!

Ok, if that got him hot, wait until he sees the video you made for him in the bubble bath. Set up the camera after you've filled the tub. (By setting up after the bath is filled you keep the steam factor from fogging up the lens. You'll be doing enough of that on your own.) Be sure that it is far enough away so that it won't fall in and electrocute you, better yet, use it in the battery mode! Fill the tub, add a candle, several houseplants around, flowers and even drape some gauzy fabric over the shower rod, then get in and soap yourself slowly and enticingly. Have enough bubble coverage to invoke a little mystery and work your way from innocently washing yourself to pleasuring yourself. Let him watch as you build the heat and he will be burning to love you as soon as he walks in the door. Role-playing and fantasy go hand in hand. Get your creative juices flowing and gift- wrap him the hottest act in town! If you can't wait to see his face tell him that you rented a chick-flick and pop it into the machine when he settles his butt down into the recliner. Just make sure it won't fall into the wrong hands. Be careful that it doesn't get mixed up with Johnny's birthday party videos, your mother in law would know she was right about you from the start, you- hussy -you! Also make sure it doesn't get tossed in the yard sale box by accident. That would really get the neighbors talking!

Strippers Make the Heart Grow Fonder

Set up the video camera again and do a strip tease. Practice makes perfect, so get out the wine, loosen up a little and put on your favorite sexy music. Go with a theme, the jungle queen in leopard print and jungle music or the belly dancer gyrating to Middle Eastern music. Use that imagination! A mind is a terrible thing to waste! The novice stripper may feel silly or ridiculous at first but take your time, practice in front of the mirror to find your best angles. A darker reddish rough under the cheek bones will make them stand out and a softened kohl eyeliner on the bottom eyeline pulled to the outer end of the brow can help in making you some other worldly exotic creature. Take your time in provoking him, dip and sway to the music. When you go to take off your bra stand tall and arch your back as you unhook it with one hand. Then as it slides off run your fingers over your nipples…Touch yourself and above all look like you're enjoying it. If you don't love yourself how can you expect him to love you? For good technique rent Strip Tease starring Demi Moore. Just don't get caught up in comparing yourself with her. For that matter don't compare yourself with anyone; just be true to you! We are all unique creations of the universe, so celebrate!

The next step is the masturbation video. Need I say more? Remember how visual those guys are so don't forget your vibrating toy. They love to watch it go in and out, so predictable they are but that can be used to our advantage. Again, start off with a little mystery; Silky robe, sheets, role-play… work your way up to full penetration. His eyes will be wider than they have ever been. Remember that many people base their fantasies from their actual experiences and build them from there. The fact that this wonton creature is his loving wife… will turn him on to the max!

Now that you have been the star in a sexy xxy film, you should be ready to make one with him! Set up the camera and smile! If you really want to laugh and have fun, write a short script with a silly plot, get the costumes together and have some background music. He can knock on the door as the "plumber" and you can star as the lonely housewife… Put your dildo and other toys in his toolbox to fix your plumbing..(Sorry I couldn't resist!) And have fun! The two of you will crack-up laughing when you play it back and he can have something to occupy him when you go to visit Aunt Edna, or vice versa! The idea is to have some fun with your mate. Life is hard and life is short so honor the goddess, the jester, the priestess, and the whore within you! Get to it! Do It!

Copyright 2000 Ladyfire.com Debora Myers is a writer, editor and co-founder of: http://www.ladyfire.com The Hottest Community for Modern Women Featuring: Romantic Love Stories, Empowerment, Fantasy, Sexuality, Horoscope Center, Esoteric Wisdom, Advice, Relationship Experts, Chat and

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