Flirting: It's Place in a Marriage
by Debora Myers

There is a place for flirtation in our adult lives. Bogged down by weary spouses, insistent children and demanding employers... a flirtation can keep our motors running and our juices flowing.
 
We shouldn't have to mask our sexy feelings and love for others around us. By being healthy, balanced individuals we should honor our sexuality as well. I'm not implying that we should jump upon every person that arouses us, but at least accept the fact that the world is full of many delicious flavors to tantalize and keep our furnaces stoked! There are many couples that are secure enough in their relationships with each other that they allow one another to have extramarital affairs or experiences. That is difficult for most of us as our social system does not support this in any way, while at the same time we are bombarded with sex from every direction. Such hypocrisy!
 
Many self- confident men are turned on by the fact that their peers find their mate eye catching and stimulating. It's an ego boost for them to know that another is attracted to you. If it is something that truly upsets your mate then don't rock the boat, (unless you want to make him mad), undercover flirting is advised in that situation. Sometimes that's even more titillating. It gives us a private area concerning our sexuality that belongs only to us, while at the same time cultivates an air of mystery.
 
Word of warning though, you must keep things in the proper perspective, do not let it go too far and don't' fall for your flirtation partner. It's not really very nice to tease and flirt with your best friend's husband, especially if she's insecure and views your coquettish ways as a threat. Back off! Life would get pretty lonely without our friends.
 
Life can be beautiful; it is what we make of it. We can't always have our cake and eat it too, but we can flirt and fantasize. By doing so our daily pressures are lightened and we learn to not take everything so seriously.
 
Love Life and Live Love!
 
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