"Is it love you're feeling
or just an infatuation?"
by Ann Landers
is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship
that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
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Infatuation is marked
by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely
happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and
pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine to
closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet
understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It
gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You
are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate
you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep
replaying. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.
"We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together you hope
it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation
of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before
you can be lovers.
confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he is cheating. Sometimes
Love means trust.
You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust, and it makes
him even more trustworthy.
lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in
the wrong direction.
Love is elevating.
It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes
you a better person than you were before."
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