This is one of the
most common problems today in long-term relationships. Loving relationships
go through hills and valleys, and require continual work and maintenance.
We all get distracted based on the stress of working and raising children.
We forget about ourselves and our partners. Your question indicates
to me that you love yourself by wanting some romance with your husband.
Just as we set an
example for our children, sometimes we need to set an example for our
spouse, as well. Start setting the stage for romance for you and your
Plan some quality
time together alone. Have date nights or go for weekend get-aways. Send
the kids off to a relative or friend and have a romantic dinner by candlelight.
How about playing hooky from work on a afternoon and getting a day room
in a nice hotel? Call him from a lingerie shop; ask him what he might
like you to buy, giving him some description of what you are looking
at to set his imagination on fire. Send him flowers at the office, send
him a sexy e-mail card, leave love notes in a lunch bag or briefcase,
create shaving cream messages on the bathroom mirror. Use your imagination...
Create the mood to start stimulating the romance back in your relationship.
Unless he is brain dead he should get the hint and start responding
back with the romance you seek. For more ideas, go to my web site; many
of my articles address these types of issues.
Hopefully your example
will kick start hubby into recognizing how important romance is to you
in your loving relationship. Should this subtle approach not work, then
you need to have some honest communication with your husband and tell
him how you feel. In your conversation, be careful not to sound as if
you are blaming the problem on him; that will only put him on the defensive.
Rather, introduce the issue of the lack of romance as something you
would like the two of you to work on as a couple. No matter how long
you have been together, your husband is not a mind reader and may be
unaware of how you are feeling. It takes two to tango: that is why I
said earlier for you to be proactive and set the romantic stage. If
communication does not work, then you may wish to seek some professional
help, as a couple, to find out why the romance has left your relationship.
Drop me a line and
let me know how you make out.
Wishing you an
epic and loving day from Providenciales.
Should push come to shove, send him to me for an Art of Loving Workshop
for some re-training.