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- Question:
I went to visit my daughter in December.When I returned 10 days later
my life partner seemed different. Now I'm afraid I'll lose him to a
nurse who works at the office where his father used to go.(He died the
end of January) What can I do to save this relationship? I love this
man! Sandra
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- Question: I
recently began traveling a great deal for business. The guys I travel
with are married and I feel secure in my relationship with my husband
but there seems to be an attraction brewing between myself and a co-worker.
When I'm back home , the co-worker is out of my mind and things go back
to normal but once I'm on the road again and our paths cross, I can
feel the tension. What's going on? I 'd like to feel the same butterflies
in my stomach over my husband rather than my co-worker. How do I get
that back? Judy T.
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- Question: My
husband isn’t very romantic. Being a working mom with two kids I feel
like I want to be swept off my feet. What can I do to convey this to
him? Trish
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- Question: My
question is I've been married 9 1/2 years, and have 2 kids. Around our
6th year I strayed and was with someone only one time. I told my husband
about it not too long after it happened. Now 3 years later we are still
trying to deal with it. But he's not opening up to me and I can't help
him. I feel like he would like the marriage to be over but he can't
come out and say it. Any suggestions??? Please help me if you can. Thanks
Jennifer W.
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- Question:
Paul, Hi again my name is Jennifer. I asked you a question a while back
it had to deal with me being unfaithful in my marriage and it happened
3 years ago. And I told you my husband was having a real problem dealing
with it still. But we've really only been dealing with it seriously
for about 2 months now. It was only a one time meeting and were really
having a hard time coping with this. We could really use some advice
because we dont want to just throw the towel in weve been married almost
10 years now and have 2 young children. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you again Jennifer
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- Question:
I have a situation with best friend and my brother. Well the story is my friend is 15 and my brother is 18, my friend is kind of easy with the guys but she knows when to stop but a couple of times she would come over and leave to see my brother and they would hook up (kiss) and i don't like it at all i mean how could my best friend do that to me and my brother knows she is my best friend too.! they done this about twice that i know of also my friend said to me "no matter what happens between me and your brothers we are still going to be best friends" and i was like ok we will and i said "why?" she said that when you were away your brother took me to the moves she said nothing happened but i don't know i cant really trust her? what should i do?? i don't want to lose my best friend and i talk about this to her but she keeps doing stuff like this! I told her already that we can hang over my house all the time so now we don't even really hang out at all any more can you please help me.
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- Question:
If I ever marry , I desire this woman to also be a Virgin , but as time
passes , this becomes increasingly less likely.
So , if you dont mind me asking , should I simpley resighn myself to a
fate without romance , which I have almost done anyway , or should I look
for that ideal?
After all , in todays world , girls start so very young , and often do
this deed with a man theyve only been out with a couple of times.
I hold the act in much more esteem , and , unlike the steriotypical male
, want my first experience to be meaningful.
The act looses something after one has done it so lightly , and after
two or three partners , it simpley isnt the same.
It becomes easier for the girl to submit , they do so more readily and
with fewer expectations.
I dont want to be te guy between larry and joe , but an actual meaning.
I want , in truth , for the experience to be mutual.
In order for this , I must both be first , and first choice.
In addition , this action should be taken with great care and concern, and not simpley done.
I want it to be done properly , with respect and care , with a meaning
that we can both experience and share.
In reality , I only want one sexual partner in my life , and only one.
In todays world , one has sex , and eventually falls in love with one
of the various sexual partners , or at least thats the theory , though I
have seen far too much pain from loose sexuality , it has done more harm
than good to let go of our morals.
So , in closeing , I ask , should I simpley give up on finding such a
girl , or is there any hope at all?
(I will not surrender my ideals , and take a womzan who was done
these things. So dont mention that. It wouldnt make me truely happy and
would be unfair both to me and the woman.)
Please reply , and thank you for reading my message , I await your
reply.
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- Question:
I have a question I would really appreciate an answer to, why at some girls
deathly scared of commitment? Like having a boyfriend? Is there any way that
a guy can change that? And if yes, how?
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- Question:
One of my best friends who's a girl, kissed me. I
started to realize that I liked her, and we made out a
couple times. Now, she tells me that she doesn't want
a relationship, and that she thought it was just "fun"
for both of us, and she didn't think I would interpret
it the wrong way. This was my first kiss, and I feel
horrible that she did this to me. She says she's
really sorry for hurting me and that she's learned
from this. However, she says I have to forgive her if
our friendship will continue. I feel like if I
forgive her, I'm losing a battle empty-handed. What
should I do???
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- Question:
My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years...about 3 years ago we were out to dinner for the first time in a few months. He had 2 jobs and besides sleeping and eating at home, we had maybe 5 hours a week together to talk. Anyway, a pretty woman caught his eye...I tried to ignore it but after we returned home it blew up into a fight. After a few days we talked about it and I explained to him that he has 14 hours a day away from home to ogle...I would appreciate that the when we are together so few hours a week, I would expect his full attention. He agreed that it made sense. But since that talk...it has become so obvious to me that he has taken that knowledge and now uses it against me to deliberately hurt me when we are out together. He tries to make the situation look completely innocent. No, I am not imagining things...I have studied his behavior to MAKE SURE that I am right! I have tried to pretend like I don't notice because it is the reaction that he wants...Psch 101 says to not give the reaction and it will stop. That is difficult to do when he just tries even harder...This Sunday is our 10th anniversary and we were going to go to dinner. I have decided to cook at home as I am afraid it is a set-up, He knows that the worst most hurtful time he could do this would be this very day! What does this say about how he feels about me? What does this say about me for staying in this hurtful relationship besides I'm in love? Please help.
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