Art of Loving Advice
Question:
Hi, My name is W. I've been friends with a girl, my dream girl, since i was a
junior in high school. At one point she made me very happy in my life, seeing
as I'm a manic depressive. But then I asked her to the prom and told her how
much that I loved her. But I only meant it as a friend. She was going out
with a guy at the time, that was treating her like crap,and she learned from
it. Well I fell for her and she turned me down, but the friendship continued.
About a week ago she fell for a guy and he turned her down(what an idiot). So
we hung out and I kept feeling that if she'd give me the chance I'd show her
happiness. but once again she turned me down. But honestly all I've ever
wanted to hear from her is that she cared about me the same way I do her. And
now I'm afraid she doesn't want anything to do with me,and she's leaving in 4
weeks. How can I convince her that I just love her and that's that? thanks,
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W, happiness comes from within. Only you can make yourself happy -- others cannot so that for you, or visa versa. Loving relationships are made from two people that compliment one another -- not complete each other. I feel it is not your right to criticize, or judge with whom your friend goes out with -- she is a big girl and capable of making her choices in life.
I would encourage you, if you are not already, seeking counselling to help you through these hurdles you are experiencing in life.
As to your question: I would sit down and write her a letter, and tell her how you feel. W, you cannot force or make someone love you. It has to come naturally.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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