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I am a newly wed... (i am only 20, my husband 22) I've been married only 3 months. I met my husband 6 years ago, he was my first love and i was his. We broke up, and 4 years passed. Over those four years a i dated ALOT more than him, and he wont seem to let that go.
The reason we broke up was because he cheated on me. he swears the girlS were lying so I gave him the benefit of the doubt, and i believe him. But now he can't seem to let go of my past, and the fact that I was ever with anyone other than him.
EVERY single day we get in a fight about it and i just can't take it anymore. I don't talk about his ex girlfriends or bring them up, and i don't talk about mine either. I have noone to talk to because he gets mad if i talk to my friends about "his" business. He will be mad if he knew i emailed you too! I talk to him about this every single day, he keeps saying he'll change... i don't like my 13 month old seeing us argue all the time. What can I do?
Confused.
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Couples counselling now!!! Tell your husband that this is not negotiable. If he truly loves you and your baby and wants to deal with these issues, you both need to do this immediately. I have to say this is pathetic behaviour on his part. The past is over, get on with life. This situation is totally unacceptable, and I would not put up with it for one more second. It is time your guy gets some help to facilitate some changes he needs to make in his life -- or face the consequences of his actions.
Paul Mauchline,
The Art of Loving Institute
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